In a freak accident, my spin-instructor aunt had her ankle bone broken in two spots about six weeks ago. It is appalling! Exactly the kind of thing I wouldn’t want to happen to ME. I assume, going forward, that it will be her Achilles Heel.
I have learned a couple things from her accident.
- It would be easy to ask why it happened to her. It would be so easy to ask God why He didn’t just…stop it from happening. Why not move the lady that fell on her a couple inches to the right and PRESTO everyone is fine. Instead, my aunt’s attitude has been to try and find the good that has happened because of this accident, and to try and find where God has met her despite her circumstances. In the kindness of the staff at the hospital, in the visits from old friends, in the newfound pleasure in journaling, in the lack of pain.
- I have also learned to stay away from women who seem to be physically unbalanced when on staircases in public venues.
- Rest is critical when getting well. That kind of goes for anything.
Because of the big clunky boot she has on her leg now, her mobility is restricted for the time being. One of the results is that she can’t put flowers on her parents’ graves this Memorial Day, which is a thing she does every year. She just pulled into the driveway (I love that I live in a place where people pull into the driveway) (actually, her husband pulled into the driveway, as she has a broken ankle) and had a flat of geraniums on her lap. The cemetery is about 1/4 mile up the road and she asked if we’d put them in the ground later today when the drizzle stops and maybe the sun peeks out.
Of course. I’d love to. Do you know what a feeling it is for this transplanted geranium to be able to go do that? (I just called myself a geranium. Was it weird? It was, right? I won’t do it again. Maybe.)
It’s a really good feeling. It’s another one of the feelings that fills me up.
Later, IF THE DRIZZLE EVER STOPS DRIZZLING, Sister and I will go up to the cemetery and put the geraniums there in anticipation of Memorial Day on Monday. Someone from the VFW will come by and put a flag in the ground to mark my grandfather’s service on the Texas during the war. According to my aunt, some other people will make the rounds to make sure that the children and grandchildren have been appropriately respectful and have marked the graves with flowers and geraniums. Isn’t that funny?
Old Guy: “I noticed no one put geraniums on Harold’s plot this year.”
Old Guy’s Wife: “Well, his kids have been pretty busy. And that one daughter broke her ankle and can’t get around yet.”
Old Guy: “When I had two broken ankles and a bullet hole while snipers took aim at me, you didn’t see me not putting geraniums on the graves of my elders.”
Old Guy’s Wife: “Very true, dear. There’s really no excuse.”
Anyway, I’ll take a picture later and try not to be maudlin.
But it’s hard, because when you miss someone, there isn’t really anything you can do other than miss them, and wait for the feeling to pass.
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People have been “pulling in” my whole life. “Who just pulled in?” “Come on down and just pull in.” “Someone just pulled in and out again, don’t know who it was.”
You are a Jacaranda flowering tree. They are stunningly beautiful and take everyone’s breath away and everyone says “Hey, what kind of tree is that?”
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I don’t know what to say to that, Dad. Love you!
Your skill with words is undiminished. They flow off the tip of your fingers onto the parchment and make me smile, make me think, make me ponder — all in good ways! I love reading anything you write. I’ve loved it since you were a little girl, leaving scraps of paper here and there and everywhere. You definitely have a gift from the Lord of writing. Please continue!!!! It’s so good. I love reading your stories as much as I love salt AND watermelon. (But never at the same time). 🙂
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Thanks Mom 🙂 I love YOU more than salt and vinegar chips, and THAT is saying something.